25 thoughts to “Confronting Narcissists Directly Has Explosive Results”

  1. America is fucced, no need to apologize. The stolen land, the mass murder,
    the whole slavery thing. That stuff was never really resolved so the legacy
    of those things continues. Any country that spends a crazy portion of its
    money on ”defense” is a scared, sick, freak, at best. Oh, btw great
    video. Cheers from the other side of the pond.

  2. The one thing Americans are pretty immune to are any contacts with
    alternative points of view. I have not been to other countries but I
    believe the US is a very narcissistic culture.

  3. The 2nd person perspective makes sense because they can then take no
    responsibility for how their behavior affects others. I had to deal with my
    mum over Christmas. It was pretty horrendous to be honest. First, on
    Christmas eve after my cousin said she was feeling down and depressed, my
    mum then announced that she was still depressed and that she was even
    suicidal the other day, she isn’t and just likes to ‘compete’ in the game
    of who can be the most miserable. So that set the tone. Then yesterday she
    mentioned that my uncles TV seems brighter and she can see things properly
    and that our TV is too dark. I suggested that ours might be normal and his
    too bright? Anyway she exploded! I said why are you raising your voice? And
    she said cos you’re pissing me off and being obnoxious! When I wasn’t. I
    was calm and normal I just wanted to get to the bottom of the tv brightness
    thing. She was the one being obnoxious and shouting but she tried to
    project it onto me! haha Straight away I said to her ‘STOP GASLIGHTING ME!
    I know for a fact she doesn’t even know what it means but it stopped her.
    If it was just me and her she wouldn’t have reacted like that but because
    my cousin was there, she sees it as an opportunity to shame and belittle
    me. She was gaslighting me all day but more subtly but that one was so
    BLATENT is was funny, she always hides behind other people to do it. They
    are cowards. 

  4. your videos have been such a great help to me, my friend Kier introduced me
    to your page , have been dealing with on and off again partner who is a HS
    teacher, and total textbook NPD.. insane! .. thank you again for being who
    you are appreciate your work immensely

  5. So you set your alarm clock for midnight to smoke crack, practice some
    voodoo and wait for a booty call?? Nice! A life of leisure, aye? @_@ No
    joking, in between your vices I actually learned something & I really think
    you’re on to something. It really resonated with me. I often noticed how
    the NPD in my life seemed to want to be anyone but himself. Made him very
    confident, charming and eccentric. People were drawn to him and very
    interested in what he was saying in a very theatrical manner. But you’re
    right a very insecure liccle boy was behind the grandiose. I’m having one
    of those ‘a-ha’ moments, and I’m not talking about the band either. Cool
    beans! Thx again for yet another mind numbingly boring video! ;)) No,
    really thx very helpful!

  6. I think by second person perspective you might mean they revere themselves
    in a certain way. An inner message that says, “Nobody is going to get one
    up on me. I mean nobody.” That’s how one person I know is. And she created
    an elaborate system with her family whereby nobody challenges her illusions
    of superiority. She is the ultimate authority. She has scapegoats and
    minions. And bullies. It is all to preserve this elaborate system where she
    is queen. The scapegoats take the sin of the family, the minions reflect
    her greatness and the bullies purge the family of self recrimination by
    laying it on the scapegoats for her. That way the detached view of herself
    is preserved. It’s all illusory. In her mind. And people scramble to make
    it happen. Amazing. But she must be worshipped, protected and have ultimate
    control. Or her second person view of her own greatness might have
    vulnerabilities.

  7. I believe non- duality/ or eastern believe system ( like Osho-ism ) and
    other teacher ism is the spirit of the age !! ( feeding and teaching
    narcissism ! cause in this system you become the GOD
    love your sense of humor and your sober view on things !! !! ))

  8. Haha born and raised in ‘murica. I have to say your ‘joking’ is fairly spot
    on. It is a pretty screwed up country. A fairly narcissistic one that
    carries a smile.
    But I’m digressing.

  9. I probably shouldn’t be posting this, but this is what happened when my
    sister confronted my mum:

    Sister: Did you seriously call Stacey a buddha? What the fuck? Wtf is wrong
    with you? Why would you even SAY something so fucking rude like that to her?

    Mother: how fucking dare you have a go at me like this. YOU are the fucking
    rude one here. Mind your own fucking business and get the story fucking
    straight BEFORE you go off at anyone. How dare YOU. We both were joking
    around and I agreed with her saying she had put on weight and I said, yeah,
    you were getting a little buddah. That was said in laughing matter WITH
    her. Fuck you and don’t you ever put your fucking nose in my business
    again. Regardless if she went to you or not. Don’t even talk to me. I’m
    sick of you two having a go at me when stace says something to you. Fuck
    you all.

    She then cut all of her children (except the golden child) out of her life,
    even though I did absolutely NOTHING wrong.

  10. I’m an American. I am not offended. I am amused. When talking with people
    from around the world (I live in New York) the narcissism is typically on
    the other side. 

  11. yeah there may be “some” trauma at the root of it, but they make choices. i
    mean i knew even as a child that my parents were “wrong” in how they abused
    me…so i really think their childhood is a weak excuse.

  12. Interesting you mention narcs seeing themselves in second person. Someone
    I once knew told me that when he did bad things it was as if he was outside
    of himself looking at himself doing it. Narcs are evil complete so they are
    in that state all the time.

  13. I have had the same thoughts about America. Which is my country. But since
    I’m half Creek and half Irish I’m good. Perhaps the curse won’t get me.
    lol. Hey, that was another great video. Thank you.

  14. I’m American. Not offended. 😉 You make very good points. Narcissism
    runs rampant in the US.

  15. HOW DARE YOU TALK ABOUT ME LIKE THIS! : )…

    .Narcissus’s should beware their Nemeses. 

  16. Very instructive. Are you a narcissist, do you think? If I met you
    socially, I would have put you in that category. Just asking what you
    think.

  17. NPD is a no confront zone! Having been married to an NPD Psychiatrist for
    23 years, I’ve learned that in the Narc’s mind, there are no
    boundaries…for them that is. The boundaries are relegated to everyone
    else/others and everything unrelated to the Narc…period. It’s never their
    bad, fault, or problem. They’ll never own their shit, in fact they may
    play the victim and surrounding themselves with others to “fight” their
    battles for them. That may be considered a Covert Narcissist? The
    “explosive result” in my opinion and from my experience comes from the
    Narc’s inability to ever manage any sort of person, place or thing taking
    ANY contradictory stand or confrontational opinion against the Narc. In
    the Narc’s mind, they are omnipotent and omniscient. In the case of a
    physician, lawyer, president (such positions of power, I feel breed these
    NPD fuckers), the God complex that is fostered by secretaries, nurses and
    ancillary staff (in a hospital setting for example}, only exacerbates the
    mess of a fucked up personality disorder that is an absolute ticking time
    bomb recipe for disaster in a marriage, friendship or any relationship for
    that matter….and monogamy….not possible for the Narc….not enough
    energy to suck from only one person. The Narc needs a crew of admirers to
    feed off of at all times, otherwise your explosion will be massive. Sorry
    ’bout the mouth…I get all bunched up with this shit, because I wasted
    soooooooo many years with a lying, cheating, life force sucking Narc, and
    now I have to start over. He’s still the same Narc jackass surrounded by
    the same group of Narc supply. If you suspect you are with a Narcissistic
    partner, RUN….NOW….and FAST!!! Thanks 😉 

  18. narcissist high looks more like an involuntary adrenaline rush.

  19. Seriously, you are the best human ever. You should be paid just for being
    such an awesome human. Not a therapist… Cus they dont heal…humans heal
    humans.

  20. I was dating a man who had the same kind of boundary issues with women and
    got very ugly when I confronted him and asked him to be accountable. So why
    are those of us who get involved with narcs drawn to them? I would really
    like to end my cycle of getting involved with narcissistic men! 

  21. Do you have any thoughts on DARVO? (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and
    Offender) The negative family member that I have to deal with seems to use
    this method exclusively. Confronting her always results in the one
    confronting being painted as the perpetrator and her the victim. 

  22. I found this clip to be misleading, disappointing and way too much
    swearing incorporated 

  23. Very funny post with many random moments lol! I think that’s what they call
    over tired 🙂
    As for confronting Narcs, both my parents are (I no longer have contact
    with them) so I learned from the best you could say. I learned to spot them
    and learned the hard way how to cut them off from their supply, me. However
    there is a level of trauma I have suffered from their behaviour, I can
    become very angry with Narcs because their behaviour can trigger emotions
    attached to bad memories. I don’t scream or yell though, I go quiet which
    as my brother has informed me is very f’n scary, his words “When you get
    angry it’s like looking into the fires of hell when I look in your eyes”
    much like an animal backed into a corner before it rips your head off. So
    what I’m trying to say is Narcs do cause long term damage to their victims.
    This is a flight or fight response that comes from being constantly abused
    over a long period of time. Because I can spot them I will extract myself
    from the situation and then keep contact between myself and the narc to a
    bare minimum (if they are a work colleague) or no contact at all. Learning
    how to control your reactions to other peoples behaviour is vital, learn
    your triggers (throwing your stappler at their head is not an option) Do
    not give a Narc personal information about yourself as they usually will
    use this against you and always behave respectfully and professionally if
    you’re in a working environment with one and only discuss work issues never
    personal ones. They will try to draw you in by ACTING like a decent person
    to see if you are a potential supply. By watching other peoples body
    language around this person you can usually gage whether or not they are
    the office Narc, the stunned bunny in the headlights look usually gives it
    away lol.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *